Since my life's work is about the answer to the query, it's a powerful question.
We were encouraged to write that down in the form of a prayer about the kind of persons we are becoming. Here's mine.
Lord,
I need a way forward. I need a real path.
I need a kick in the pants to stop the things
that are slightly and slowly strangling my own soul,
my relationships and my heart.
I want, desperately, to be what I seem.
I want radical congruence.
Show me what to stop--give me the courage and discipline to do it.
Show me what to start--give me the vision to see it.
Give me the trust that you do all things well.
In your name and for your glory I ask these things.
Amen.